Being a mom is one of the most equally rewarding and challenging roles to fill.
Plus, times are always changing. In today’s world, a lot of moms feel pressure to be involved mothers.
And even though moms take pride in their abilities to multi-task, it often feels as though there is not enough time in the day.
If you’re a mom and you don’t feel that you’re the best you can be, we’ve got some tips on how to be a good mom.
Keep reading to learn what they are, and remember, cut yourself some slack!
1. Say Goodbye to Your Inner Critic
In the age of social media, it’s normal to feel intimidated by all the posts of “perfection” and motherhood.
The best thing a good mother can do is to let go of that guilt and all that inner criticism.
Every mom has strengths and weaknesses, and it’s important not to focus on your perceived flaws. Instead, allow yourself to shine in ways you know you can and accept that you’re doing the best for your kids.
2. Take Care of Yourself
Don’t feel guilty leaving your kids to get in a workout at the gym. Don’t be hesitant to leave them home with your partner for a night out with your friends.
It’s good for your kids to see your love yourself and take care of yourself. And it will give them the intuition to do the same for themselves.
3. Give Your Kids One-on-One Time
Don’t force yourself to spend hours playing with legos or dolls. But take at least 15 minutes a day to play or read or interact with your child without ANY distractions.
Not only will it strengthen your bond, but it will teach your children to communicate and let them know they are loved and valued.
And if your little one is still a baby, put them in your Rebozo and take them for a walk. They’ll feel connected to you pressed against your chest, and you can talk to them about all the things you’re observing outside.
4. Don’t Escalate When They Do
One of the best pieces of mothering advice rings true time and time again. Just because your child is screaming or crying or whining or flipping out, doesn’t mean you have to escalate to their level.
Even though it’s tempting to feed off the anxiety of a meltdown, the best thing you can do for you both is to remain calm. Let them get out what they need to release and then communicate about what happened.
Every amazing mom communicates with her children.
If your toddler is going to meet new people or is starting preschool soon, talk about it long beforehand. You can prepare your kids for almost anything and influence the way they adapt by preparing them for what’s next.
Did they have a rough day? Talk about it before bed so they can learn from and understand their experiences.
Allow Yourself to Learn How to Be a Good Mom
Knowing how to be a good mom can come naturally but it’s also learned.
Every day and every age is different. The best thing you can do is cut yourself some slack and take it one day at a time.
Show your children love and kindness but do the same for yourself. Communicate and work together to learn and grow!
And don’t be afraid to say sorry! If you make a mistake and apologize, you’re teaching your children an essential truth of life.
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