When someone dies in your family it is a traumatic event that causes stress and unhappiness in those who were close to that person. We all understand that losing someone close is a tragedy, however we must go on and remember that the person who has passed would want us to continue to live our lives and be productive.
Getting to this understanding quickly is important because it allows you to focus on the details that need to occur after someone has passed away, particularly planning the funeral. Which can also be overwhelming. Sure you can do some things related to the funeral easily, like look online to find a headstone, but many of the other elements will be much more difficult. Here are a few of the most important tips for getting through it.
Ask Yourself a Long List of Important Questions
The first important thing for you to do when you plan a funeral is to make a list of all of the important things that are involved. You should start with the wishes of the deceased person in terms of what you focus on most. Would the person have wanted a large or long funeral ceremony? What is the list of people that the person would invited to the funeral? How much time do attendees need to make preparations in order to make sure they can get to the funeral? Did the person want to be cremated or buried? What funeral home is the best choice? What are the budgets for having the type of funeral that you envision? This long list of questions and others relevant to the event will help you to begin to put things into perspective.
Find Out Who is Available to Help
Planning and executing a funeral is a difficult detailed event. You will need to coordinate everything from making sure that people will arrive in town on time, executing the events around the funeral, hiring the funeral home, the priest or other person who will speak at the funeral, and any legal paperwork necessary to make sure that everything is recorded with the city. Each of these important tasks is a lot of work and you need to enlist others who can take on some of the responsibilities.
Aim for people who have great management skills and who do not get flustered when there are a lot of details that demand attention. Make a clear list of needs for anyone that you involve and stay in constant communication with them so that each of you is clear on what needs to happen when, and for what reason. The funeral home will handle a lot of the specific details about the funeral and they will be a great assistance in helping you to manage the process. However there are other areas where they will not be of much help and you need to round these areas out with those people who are dedicated to making sure that the funeral and its related events happen as planned.
Finally, be patient. Very few people are expert at planning funerals and if you are picked over see one there will be many elements of it that require you to make judgment calls with a simply is no good answer. Be patient and do not be hard on yourself. Remember things don’t have to be perfect, you only have to have perfect intentions.